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Why She Has To "show Me Something"?
By John Alanis, Sat Dec 10th
When most men set out to attract a woman, the first thing theywant to do is "impress her." They may show up in a fancy car(rented, sometimes) take her to a 5 star restaurant, and "flashthe cash" all in the hopes that she'll like him. One of two things usually happens here. If he flashes enoughcash, she'll hang around to spend it all, sucking him dry whileshe plays around with men she's really attracted to. Or, morelikely, she'll just dismiss him as another waldo with more moneythan brains, and a small self image. Guys who set out to "impress women" are done before they evenstart. Why? Because the desire to impress someone is a way ofgiving authority in the relationship to them, a sure attractionkiller with women.
Guys who are successful with women take the opposite viewpoint:if he's going to allow her to spend time with him, she has toimpress him. And, she has to continue to impress him. That's my attitude. If a woman
wants to spend time with me, shehas to show me something, has to prove to me she's got moregoing for her than all the ordinary women I could attract. And,once she's spending time with me, she has to continue to show mesomething, because I'm always "churning the bottom of theroster" looking for a gem. Is this attitude arrogant? Depends on who you ask. Many guys whoare not successful would say it is. People who are successful,however, recognize it as time management, pure and simple. See, when you have the ability to create attraction, you're indemand. If your not careful, you can waste a lot of time withwomen who are not suited for you. But if you have the attitudethat she must impress you, you'll quickly remove those who arejust time wasters, replacing them with those who are worth yourtime. Remember, she must impress YOU, not the other way around. About the author:About the Author: John Alanis, "The King of Let 'em Come toYou", is author of the "Women Approach You" system athttp://www.womenapproachyou.com. His blog is athttp://www.johnalanis.com
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